Am I the only one who always feels like I owe someone something? As if I always have to be so giving of myself, my energy, and my time with others.
If you nodded your head in agreement, then like me, you’re suffering from a lack of boundaries.
When I take a step back, I can honor a boundary and my responsibility better. For instance at Work – I understand my responsibility is to sell our services to companies. And I honor this responsibility by executing the necessary tasks during my work hours <— that’s my parameters or in other words – the boundary. Outside of work hours, I’m not obligated to do anymore. I know that I’m maximizing my time, giving my all during those hours so I don’t “feel bad” when I don’t answer an email that comes through at 8 pm. It’s not within my work parameters. Sure, some emails are easy and it doesn’t take a lot to just shoot a quick message. But I found that having less boundaries made me feel very unclear about what I should and should not be doing. There was guilt that would grow in my stomach because I felt like something was owed there.
I may be different from you, but I have the tendency to be a workaholic. If I’m not paying attention or have no parameters around what’s needed from me then, it is easy for me to get burnt out. And burn out is so avoidable when we set proper boundaries to honor our truth. After I had my son, I thought long and hard about how I wanted to be a woman, wife, and momma. What I wanted my days to be like, feel like, sound like, smell like, etc. I knew the pace at which I was going was not conducive to the life I was wanting to create. HOWEVER, my first thought wasn’t too quiet. I needed to have a better understanding of what I did not want and needed. Once I took that inventory and assessed the boundaries and parameters for which I needed, I could more clearly see how I could uphold my current work responsibility. If the answer was “NO” then I knew I needed to be looking at other work opportunities that would help me honor my present truth.
I think the part that was different for me here because in the past I Always fit my life around my work and this time I considered my life and how work can fit into that. 👈🏾 There’s a difference here! And I was not able to get here overnight. But it’s important for us to understand these things as we move through our lives so we can live the lives we want to live!
